Finding a routine that works for you

Having a baby is a life changing event – a change for the better I might add! The first few weeks though can be a bit of an upheaval as both you and your baby try to come to grips with this new life you both share in. At times, it will be a bit daunting and tiring, even if your baby does spend most of her time sleeping. And getting a routine in place will be on a lot of mums’ minds and undoubtedly one of the hot topics at any new-mum get-togethers.

In the first few weeks you shouldn’t worry about trying to get your baby into a firm routine. A newborn baby needs to feed frequently, every 3 hours on average, so it takes a while to get your baby used to day & night. At this early stage focus on getting to know your little one, establishing breastfeeding, helping her settle to sleep and making sure you rest and look after yourself. Being up in the night soon takes its toll!

When you’re ready start to think about establishing a routine. Helping to establish a routine will help you to feel more in control of your life and will also help your baby feel more secure. Most babies will feel more comfortable knowing when it’s time to play, eat or sleep. And for mums, it’s great to know that you can have a bit of ‘me’ time now and again.

There is no right or wrong when it comes to establishing a routine. All babies are different. Introducing a sleep-time routine is a good starting point though. In the early evening, by the time your baby is around 2 or 3 months old, try a bath, a quick massage, a feed and a soothing song or lullaby. When they reach six months, you may want to introduce a story (a simple picture book) and a sleep-time teddy. You can encourage your baby to sleep more at night by feeding her regularly during the day, and at night, keep lights low, avoid too much stimulation and only change her nappy if necessary. Good sleep habits will benefit both parents and child for many years to come.

A soother may also help her to settle – babies have a strong instinct to suck and that simple sucking action may naturally relax her. Try and choose an orthodontic type soother which is better for developing teeth and gentle on your baby’s sensitive skin too. Remember to sterilise your soothers regularly, particularly if it has been dropped.

While it’s recommended that your baby sleeps in your room (in a separate cot) for the first six months, there will be times when you’re not in the same room. That’s where a good baby monitor can help. It’s a great way to keep an eye (or rather an ear!) on your baby without rushing in whenever she makes a sound – and that way you can let her try to settle herself first, thereby helping her to establish good sleeping habits in the long run. Some of the new baby monitors are digitally enhanced, which means you have zero interference and crystal-clear reception. And for extra peace of mind, some carry additional features such as real-time digital humidity and temperature sensors which allow you to monitor your baby’s room conditions.

Just remember there are no textbook rules when it comes to baby routines. Your baby is not a robot – she’s an individual and it can take time to learn what routine works for her. You have a big influence of course, but not all parents want a firm routine, others don’t know how they would manage without one. This is your baby, your time as a mum, or dad, follow your instincts and don’t be afraid to seek support and guidance if you need it. A good routine is one everyone is happy with!