Preparing for baby number two!

Having a baby can turn the toughest of men into a big softy! When your baby looks up at you and smiles, it’s enough to melt anyone’s heart. And I think most dads will agree, there’s nothing nicer than spending time with their pride and joy and watching them grow, which all happens far too quickly. So why stop at just one! Having a second child can bring even more joy to your life, although it can mean changes have to be made - and it will certainly mean more work for all. Here are a few of my suggestions on how to make life with an expanding family just that little bit easier.

Q – We are expecting number two! What’s your advice for preparing ourselves as a family for the new arrival?

• Make sure your partner is feeling as relaxed as possible as there are going to be many days where she is not feeling herself. A relaxing massage and some pampering treats may do the trick. Get your child involved too.
• Explain to your child that they are having a brother/sister and encourage him/her to take an interest in other babies, especially when breastfeeding. This approach helps children understand that caring for a newborn may mean that parents don’t always have as much time to spend with them but that they are not loved any less. Explain whenever possible that there will be changes to their lives, like a change of bedroom. You can get them involved in the room change, choosing a colour or a piece of furniture.
• Your child will feel closer to the baby if you let him/her talk to and feel your bump. Tell them that the impending arrival is looking forward to seeing them soon and is very excited. At the scan appointments let them see the baby moving and point out the different parts of the body.
• Try to ensure that the person who looks after them when you go into labour is someone they are truly comfortable with. Get them to spend as much time as possible with this person beforehand. Write down your little one’s routine so that the family member/friend can limit the disruption as much as possible.
• Empower them by explaining you will need their help in looking after their baby brother/sister. Mummy and daddy will need help with things like shopping, nappy change and feeding. Praise them for all of the help they give and tell them how much you and the baby appreciate everything.
• To avoid him/her feeling pushed out by the baby change the sleeping arrangements a few months before the baby is born if you can. Alternate who spends time with your first child and the new baby. Don’t plan any major changes like potty training around that time as your child may regress.

And what’s your advice for when the new baby has arrived?

• When you first arrive home with the baby be sure to acknowledge your child without the baby in your arms so that you give them your undivided attention. Sitting close to and reading a story to your child whilst your partner breastfeeds can also help stop them feeling left out. When your partner is able to express milk, let the child help feed the new baby. Get them involved in the routine so they’ll know when to bring things like muslins and bottles.
• Take your older child out for a walk or to the park so that your partner has time to get breastfeeding established and get some rest when the baby sleeps. On occasion take both children out to give your partner a rest.
• Help with the household chores, shopping and gardening and get your older child involved too.